I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. Therapy requires much more courage than handling things on your own. In our work together, we will identify where and why you are getting stuck. Then we will identify what you can do to move forward. It’s hard work, but you will be glad to have done it!
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally.
Professional boundaries mean that you can say whatever you need to say, you won’t hurt my feelings, I won’t tell anyone what you’ve said. I can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Our work together is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about anyone “knowing your business.” I won’t resent you if you make necessary changes in your life. Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication can be helpful temporarily, but typically does not solve the underlying issues. Over time, medication often becomes less effective. Our work together is designed to untangle the problems that made you need medication in the first place.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
In the first one or two sessions, I will ask you about your life, so that I can develop an understanding about the problems you are facing. What happens next depends on your challenges and goals. You may choose couples’ work, EMDR, or more traditional talk therapy. I will provide my guidance, but you will choose what feels right for you.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique. The length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success. When we meet, we can discuss what you can do outside of our sessions to help yourself further.
If you want to get started now, things I often recommend include yoga or stretching, walking, journaling, cutting back on caffeine and/or alcohol, and decreasing screen time.