Relationship Skills are Effective, Even if Only One Person Uses Them (at first).
You may be very motivated to see a marriage counselor, but find your husband or wife is very resistant. There are a lot of reasons people refuse to go to therapy, including fear of not being in control, reluctance to admit they need help, or simply fear of being vulnerable.
Unfortunately, you can’t make your partner go to couples counseling, no matter how much it might help your relationship. You can make yourself a better partner by learning new ways to communicate, interact with and respond to your partner. Often, when one partner begins to make healthy changes, their partner responds with their own positive changes.
Better relationship skills make a better relationship, even if you are the only one using them (at first).
EMDR Can Help with Many Mental Health Challenges.
EMDR helps people resolve problems more quickly than traditional talk therapy. It can help with trauma, anxiety, depression, and other challenges.
EMDR targets problems at their root, so you can finally heal.
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About Frances T. Spillane, LMHC
Whether you are seeking help for yourself, or for your relationship, I look forward to working with you. My authenticity, compassion and judgment-free acceptance will support the honest exploration of your most important issues. You deserve a cherishing relationship, with yourself and with your partner. I am committed to providing a safe therapy space for people of all colors, genders and orientations.
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“Fran was warm and attentive, gently working with me to understand EMDR and create my own process to use it for healing. She was able to honor my misgivings and provide ample space to make sure I was the one leading our encounters. Fran empowered me to work through difficult situations and emotions by placing trust in myself. I highly recommend working with her, especially if you need to re-establish self-trust and tackle some heavy pieces of your story.”
“When I started seeing Fran, I was skeptical about talking to anyone but she has changed my life by helping me in so many ways. She helped me figure out years of problems that I didn’t even know was tearing me up inside and because of her I am a better mom, wife, friend and I feel I am an all around better person. I owe her a world of gratitude and my only regret is I wish I started seeing Fran sooner.”
“Fran’s compassionate competence and down-to-earth style created a safe space for us to utilize EMDR to address past trauma. She was a dedicated and enthusiastic partner in my healing process. With Fran, I came to realize how resilient I had been–and still am.”
“Fran has been undeniably instrumental in restoring our marriage and provided so much guidance and support along the way. She has a refreshing balance of knowledge, understanding and patience and her passion for helping us was always apparent. She has set us upper future success and we would recommend her to any struggling couples.”